Rebuilding After Being Broken Open

I am feeling disheartened and extremely frustrated. We can not run or hide from our feelings. We can not stuff them aside or pretend they don’t exist. However, on the other side, if you are going to be in a space where you dive deep into spiritual and emotional wounding than you MUST have someone that will support you in re-building! I am disheartened because two schools I attended have not offered ways in which to re-build and heal. Classes were offered on how to travel to the depths of someone’s pain but then it’s as if they dropped you in the middle of a cave saying, “find your own way out”. That is NOT healing to me! We need coaches, mentors, and therapist that are willing to journey back with us to light and love! 

This is where my coaching work differs from others. I will not leave someone behind and in the depths of their pain without offering or recommending ways to heal, transform, and live a heart centered life again. 

When you are in the depths of that pain, when you are asked to go deep, when you are asked to drudge up wounding, you can’t expect someone to find their own way out. Often times if we are left to fend for ourselves the darkness only seems to grow - wanting to just stay in bed, hide from life through addictions, and much more. We were made to be in relation with one another! 

I am not saying here that you need to tell someone what to do and how they should heal. It is about coaching, directing, and guiding them to listen to their own heart and spirit’s healing requests. And for those who attend church, going to mass once a week doesn’t always cover it. I know it didn’t for me. I needed weekly support through various means, one of those being creative activities for expressing myself in a healthy way. The others have included seeing a shamanic practitioner, working with my life coach, doing psychic readings, listening more deeply to my body, eating well, finding ways to release what needs to be released, and much more. This is why I have created the Radiant Heart Unique Serving System. It is an alchemical brew of experiences, tools, and healing modalities that have given me serenity and transformation in my life. 

You are not meant to go it alone. You are not meant to be broken open without a way to come back to your core self of light, love, joy, peace and ease. Marianne Williamson states in Tears to Triumph, “A society whose entire social and economic system fosters separation from ourselves, from each other, and from the earth on which we live is a society that guarantees suffering.” Living a Radiant life isn’t all roses and butterflies, it is the willingness to stay connected to ones self even in the midst of pain. Living a Radiant life is being connected to another and being willing to meet the other where they are at, to be a witness to their story. And then, to hold sacred space for them to return to love. This is what I feel called to do and who I want to be. 

“For me, the only things of interest are those linked to the heart.”

~Audrey Hepburn

The ocean, water in general, is and has been incredibly restorative for me in the healing and rebuilding process. My high coach recommendation is take time to connect with water in any way possible. Baths, drinking more of it, listening to it, being in it are all a part of my weekly routine, along WITH coaching and receiving incredible support. You are not alone and you do not have to do it alone!

The ocean, water in general, is and has been incredibly restorative for me in the healing and rebuilding process. My high coach recommendation is take time to connect with water in any way possible. Baths, drinking more of it, listening to it, being in it are all a part of my weekly routine, along WITH coaching and receiving incredible support. You are not alone and you do not have to do it alone!

Living a Radiant Heart Centered Life After Grief & Loss

In 2006 my dear high school friend and college roommate was murdered. Her name was Amber and she was a beautiful, radiant, playful soul. Her life was taken by another who I had called friend. That friend then took his own life. While trying to even begin to process the fact that I was living my own horror story, one of my closest Uncle's was going through his own horror story. He was fighting stage 4 cancer. Then six months later, unexpectedly, my grandpa died of a heart attack. My Uncle survived for several months after but the cancer took over and died the following summer. 

Grief filled my heart and my life. At age 18, it is hard to process coming into adulthood let alone massive grief and loss. Any type of grief and loss will wake you up to the fragility of life and how truly precious it is. My life turned upside down.

The following years became about me surviving. For many of those years the best I could do was hide the incredible pain and run from it. I was determined to finish my degree and do well in dance. (Much to the expense of my health and well being.) 

I didn't go it alone. My family and friends did the best they could with all their love and support. I also received counseling, spiritual directing, and went on several retreats. All helped in small ways ease the pain and remind me that I wasn't alone. 

The video I share with you is this story. Sharing our stories is one step in the healing process. It allows us to be seen, vulnerable, and to remind us that we are not alone. We are created to be in relation with one another. We are meant to THRIVE not just survive. At the core of our being is light, love, joy, peace and ease. Often times we have to be willing to sort through the muck, dark, and pain to discover the diamonds within. 

My mission and passion is to hold this sacred space for you. It is to shine the light on the core of who you are and who you are meant to be - light, love, and joy! Healing and transformation is possible. And I am here to guide you on your journey. 

 

May the Immaculate Heart of Mary and the Sacred Heart of Jesus wrap you in tender loving care on journey of healing and transformation. 

May the Immaculate Heart of Mary and the Sacred Heart of Jesus wrap you in tender loving care on journey of healing and transformation. 

"We Must Kindle the Divine Fire Within Ourselves."

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Amma Syncletica - “We must kindle the Divine fire in ourselves.”

Amma Syncletica was a desert mother in the early centuries of Christianity. “Christian monasticism began flowering in response to a call to leave behind the world…Spiritual seekers who came to be known as the desert fathers and mothers withdrew from society where the misuse of human relationships, power, and material possessions ran counter to their sense of the sacredness of life.” (Valters Painter, Christine. Illuminating the Way. 2016. pg 67) Many of us are feeling the call to this now! However, one doesn’t have to flee to the desert to find the sacredness of life. We can create sacred space everyday to cultivate a deep listening and awareness of the Divine’s fire within. 

Amma Syncletica is a reminder for us today to continue our journeys with courage and conviction. She encourages us to make the arduous journey to the depths of our souls. We are invited to work through resistance with ease and grace, and to find life-giving alternatives to the constraints and restrictions placed on us by a patriarchal society. Here is one of her sayings that is part of a collection entitled Sayings of the Desert Fathers :

Amma Syncletica said, “In the beginning there are a great many battles and a good deal of suffering for those who are advancing towards God and afterwards, ineffable joy. It is like those who wish to light a fire; at first they are choked by smoke and cry, and by this means brain what they see, so we also must kindle the divine fire in ourselves through tears and hard work.”

When first reading this quote I could feel myself resisting the phrase “hard work”. In the past, hard work has been equated to working hard until I am exhausted and have nothing left to give. However, as I continued to read more about Amma Syncletica and the desert fathers, I discovered that battles and hard work were in reference to the battles we have with ourselves. Their desert theology specifically makes reference to the demons that keep us from our divine fire, specifically the inner critic.  

Through their teachings we are encouraged to lean into our spaces of resistance and to “battle” with our thoughts so that Spirit may shine light upon them. My biggest take away from Amma Syncletica is echoed in the teachings of A Course in Miracles that states a miracle is a shift in perception. Jesus and his life, for me, is the truest example of a miracle. He challenged what was known to be true and continues to invite us to shifts in perceptions for all that is good, true, and beautiful. 

 We must cultivate and practice peace in our own lives to then have the ripple effect move out into the world. It first begins by acknowledging and honoring our feelings, not hiding them or placing them on others. We must take personal and energetic responsibility for our emotions. Second, then we must reflect on what meanings, thoughts, and stories we have attached to those feelings. Lastly, and one of my personal goals, is creating practices that support in the transformation of those stories and perceptions to Spirit and Love. To allow our Divine fire to light the way rather than fear and “demons” holding us back.

One of my favorite practices can be found here. I invite you to sign up for my newsletter to receive your free gift of "Moving Meditation How To", as well as other bi-weekly letters where I share other core practices I love and utilize daily. I also recommend another incredible resource that accompanies the book Illuminating the Way. It is a great way to embody Amma Syncletica's wisdom more deeply and it was created by my dancing friend, Betsey Beckman. Check it out!

 Lastly, celebrate miracles!!! Celebrate those shifts in perceptions! They may seem small but they make a world of a difference. They allow us to continue the journey of kindling the Divine fire within ourselves. 

Amma Syncletica teach us courage, conviction, and be with us as we journey through our tears and sufferings to hope, love, and healing light. 

Complimentary Essential Oil - Frankincense

It’s no surprise that Frankincense (Boswellia carterii) has been sought after since ancient times. The complex aroma of this oil can elevate many aspects of your life. Diffuse Frankincense oil to refine your sense of purpose or add it to your beauty routine for a luxurious experience.

Frankincense essential oil has an earthy, uplifting aroma that’s perfect for grounding and spiritual connectedness. Create a safe and comforting environment when you diffuse or inhale this empowering oil—a perfect opportunity to collect your thoughts. When you seek purpose or engage in prayer or meditation, use this oil to enhance your experience. (quoted from Young Living Essential Oil)

In addition to elevated spiritual experiences, the benefits of Frankincense essential oil include maintaining radiant skin. Radiate your brightest self in mind, body, heart, and spirit using this oil! I do and I love it! It is an amazing oil for moving "demons" out and cultivating the Divine fire within. 

With laughter, love, and healing light,

Kristin

“Nothing is impossible. The word itself says I’m Possible.” ~Audrey Hepburn

Wednesday's Wired & Inspired Readings

Welcome to “Wednesday’s Wired & Inspired Reading”. This idea was given to me during a movement meditation. Best to follow those inspired action steps! Super glad and excited to be bringing this to you. Yippy! The movement part will be added in very soon as well. 

May your week be inspired by each reading. May you take your own inspired and guided action steps from it. May your life be ever more fulfilled in love, grace, ease, prosperity, and serenity. 

Kick Up Your Heels.

Your spirit is longing to celebrate, be playful and have fun! 

As a recovering perfectionist, and someone who grew up hearing that all I had to do was work hard, fun and kicking up my heels tended to be the last thing on my list. Those guilty feeling voices would come up, and who am I kidding they still do, saying things like “you need to be doing more, how are you going to succeed in life if you aren’t the best student, you need to make more money and the only way to do so is by working hard.” Oh the stories we tell ourselves and cling to out of fear of the unknown. 

While I sense this card has a strong message for us all, it is definitely a reminder for me to reach out to friends and have fun. And to have my own “Artist’s Play Dates”. I know that these things fuel me for the work I am doing! But oh how I resist them. As my close friend and brother say, “I am ballin on a budget.” I can enjoy life now because now is all I have. More play and fun is needed in the world and it starts with me. 

What is one thing you’ll do this week to “kick up your heels” and have fun? 

How will that bring joy to your body spirit and inner child? 

Affirmation: I am spirited, playful, and fun to be with. I create ways to celebrate my life now. (Inspired by Doreen Virtue)

David danced before God with all his might.

David danced before God with all his might!

Before David was king, he was a servant of Saul’s. David played his harp and sang to comfort Saul during bouts of emotional rampage. His song and harp playing would always relieve Saul of his troubles and bring him back to ease, grace, and peace. (1 Sm 16:23) It is also said that David danced before the Ark of the Covenant in 2 Samuel. The book of Psalms is attributed to him as poet and musician as well. (Painter, 2016. 17-20)

(Painter, Christine. Illuminating the Way. Sorin Books, Notre Dame. 2016.)

Art, music, song, dance, and play all awaken our entire beings to fresh perspectives, a sense of renewal, and joy! It is extremely important to process emotions. And perhaps Saul needed more than music and song from David. However, I have found that working through painful emotions, or emotional rampage, in creative ways opens up the gate for tremendous healing and transformation. It also an important way to give gratitude and thanks. 

Turn on your favorite, uplifting song and dance your heart out! 

Complimentary Essential Oil - Stress Away.

Stress away…we can all use this in our life. I am in love with this oil! It is my absolute favorite. I diffuse it several times a week and smell it before bed. When I start feeling the inner critic coming in strong I get out this oil, sit down and breathe in deep. Again, I can’t tell you how much this oil has helped me. You have to try it for yourself! I have always believed in essential oils and holistic healing modalities. However, this is the first time I have used them regularly. It is now a part of my morning and evening routine. I am incredibly grateful to one of my close friends for sharing her healing stories using the oils. 

Before you go out and play this week diffuse this oil then fully enjoy your life! Your inner child will be SO glad you did. You’ll be more radiant than ever!

 

With laughter, love, and healing light,

Kristin

“Nothing is impossible. The word itself says I’m Possible.” ~Audrey Hepburn

Novena for Mutter (Grandmothers)

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Join me in nine days of prayer and/or meditation as I honor our grandmother’s in creative, prayerful, and playful ways! In the Roman Catholic church, a Novena is an ancient devotion that consists of 9 days of prayer. Novenas are often prayed in preparation for a fest day or for a specific intention. (http://www.praymorenovenas.com/novenas/

My specific intention is this…to honor my Mutters (grandmother in German), celebrate their life, to ask for their wisdom and insight, and to ask them to pray on behalf of us all, especially at this critical point in our history. I am a firm believer in the power of devotion and tradition. I am also a firm believer that sometimes ancient devotions and traditions need a bit of a creative twist. 

I invite all to join me in honoring their grandmothers for the next nine days. All are welcome! I will be offering an outline for anyone to follow. However, please adapt this to what works for you, what works for your heart and body spirit. Bring in your own practices. 

If the practice portion isn’t something you’d like to join then PLEASE comment with the following below… “I am with you in spirit. I’d be honored if you’d add ______ (your grandmother’s name) to your list to do the novena on behalf of her and I.” This would be my absolute pleasure so PLEASE don’t shy away!

I was inspired to do this after speaking with my dear friend Soyinka Rahim, the creator of BIBO LOVE and GSP (Grassroots Spiritual Practitioner). I was unable to dance at my Mutter’s funeral in December. She always supported my dancing and me living out my dreams. Her funeral was beautiful but it would have been enhanced and embodied on a deeper level for all if I could have honored her with my dancing spirit. I am choosing to honor her now in the ways in which I live my life. 

Both Mutters were devout Christians and truly lived out their faith. I was and continue to be inspired by their way of life. They were also open, welcoming, and inclusive of all. Yesterday, also marked ten years of grandpa being gone. Tears welled up in me as I fully realized that I no longer have any grandparents. I deeply miss them, their laughs, and their wisdom. However, I am incredibly grateful that I got to know all of them much longer than others do. 

 

Simple steps for Novena for Mutters (grandmothers):

Start date: Thursday, February 9th

End date: Saturday, February 18th

  • 9 days of creative prayer and meditation
  • 15 minutes per day (you choose the time but be sure the time is set aside)
  • Say one decade of the rosary contemplating on their life, what you received from them, etc.
    • (or use a prayer, meditation, devotion that speaks to you)
  • Free form dance to Grandmother’s song - let the song repeat 3-5 times
    • Grandmother Song
    • (or any type of creative act that speaks to you…poem, sing along, draw, paint, etc.)
  • take 5 minutes to journal any insights, feelings, thoughts, ah has, and/or wisdom that comes up
  • Last day: Take time to honor or celebrate your Mutter!

(I will be honoring Mutter Kissell by signing up as a eucharist minister to take communion to the elderly who are unable to attend church. I will be honoring Mutter Wise by baking and sharing the goodies with friends. Me praying for others that ask me is also a way to honor Mutter Wise. She had a list of people she prayed for, even people she had never met. The rosary and novena is also in honor of Mutter Kissel and Grandpa.) 

*Again, this is what I will be doing. All practices are welcome. I’d actually love to hear if you’ll be doing the same or something different. 

A big part of my work as a transformational, intuitive coach is creating sacred containers for full expression of body, mind, and spirit! My high coach self encourages you to post your creations, inspirations, and wisdom here! I just ask that if strong emotions come up please take some time to be energetically conscious and responsible before posting all here. This is a safe, supportive and sacred space. I want all to feel welcome and to receive high energy and healing from this experience.

If strong emotions come up and you are unable to move through them please private message me or email me at connect@kristinkissell.com. I will be happy to support you during the next 9 days. Also, if you are in search of someone to support you in working more deeply through painful emotions in an easeful, transformative way than please connect with me! We can schedule your complimentary clarity call. 5 spots are now available and will only be available during the 9 days. 

Are you curious and open to bringing movement into your practice? I offer a fantastic step by step guide on how to do so! You may sign up to receive this gift by clicking the following link Movement Meditation How To.

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The Divine Summons

Hello Radiant Hearts! Welcome to my blog and radiant, regal writings! I'm excited to be sharing me with you in the hopes that my stories will be life giving, transformative or just plain fun for you to read. My goal is to be as transparent as possible. This scares the day lights out of me but I've been feeling a call/summons to do so. I'll not only be sharing my own stories but I'll also be sharing favorite quotes, poems that speak to me, stories of others that move me, as well as dance videos of projects I'm working on. As a forewarning for all those grammar people out there, I tend to have run on sentences, use lots of commas and a few other such things. I'd prefer to speak from the heart and not worry so much about technicalities. I'm also in the process of recovering from my type A, perfectionist tendencies. Your grace is much appreciated. :-) 

One thing I would like to share with you is that I am a practicing Catholic but am also a spiritually open minded person. I find inspiration from all religions and spiritual practices. I am in love with the ancient Celtic spiritual traditions, as well as the Native traditions. I believe in saints, Mary, spirit animals/guides and angels. I believe that they all speak or come to us in many many ways, most often in the silence of our hearts. All of this to say, that throughout my blog I will refer to God as God, Divine or Love but it's not limited to my tradition alone. I enjoy learning about other religions and cultures so please share with me in the comments below. Let us help each other learn about one another and be lovingly united in our differences. 

To start this beautiful blog off, I would like to share with you a verse from a song we sang in church this past Sunday that spoke directly to my spirit. The title is "The Summons" by John Bell. Verse 4: 

Will you love the ‘you’ you hide
If I but call your name?
Will you quell the fear inside
And never be the same?
Will you use the faith you’ve found
To reshape the world around,
Through my sight and touch and sound
In you and you in me?

"Wow. Ok God. I hear you calling me." Is what went through my head. The next thing was, "But I need your support and courage most of all to do so. I've let fear get the best of me the past several years and I'm tired of it! Some of things you're calling me to seem out of reach but ok. I guess this Lent will be a good place to start." 

Many people often think of Lent as giving up of material things. While that is true, I've found that when I focus on non-material things that Lent is much more transformative, fruitful and healing. So for this Lent, I am going to work on letting go of fear and focusing in on hospitality. Hospitality/self love for me and hospitality/love of my neighbor. I've been wanting to have a night for friends to gather and say the Rosary. I've been wanting to schedule webinars for my coaching. I've been wanting to set up this blog for a long time. However, fear and distractions at home have gotten in the way. Fear is not of God, the Divine or Universe. LOVE is! By committing to the things I've been wanting to do, I am committing to loving myself, loving my neighbor and being of service for the Divine. God can't work through me if I keep hiding under the covers or behind my distractions. 

I will be celebrating this new beginning today, on Fat Tuesday, with friends, as well as dancing around at home in thanksgiving for all that I have (including the fear to get me to this point). How will you celebrate today and give thanks? How might fear be getting the best of you? Is there something that's been on your heart but you haven't had the courage to do? I'd love to hear from you! Lent begins tomorrow and I am looking forward to it! As a dear friend says, "Grace and Peace to you" in the next 40 days of your journey. 

Light and love,

Kristin